Asking for Help in Perimenopause… Scary? OR Empowering?

Last year during the pandemic I lost my shit. My world had been turned upside down and like a lot of other people during that time the future of my business was in trouble. Instead of handling it with grace and compassion, I was in a state of constant fear and anxiety.

Instead of asking for help, and addressing the why behind my fear and anxiety I complained all the time. With anger and frustration, I kept asking WHY ME?!

That is when my perimenopausal symptoms kicked into high gear.

My inner 2-year-old was screaming and the louder I screamed the worse my symptoms got. The hot flashes, the vaginal dryness, and the constant crying over silly shit were taking over my life.

My breaking point came when I realized how strained my relationship was becoming with my husband. I had lost sight of what was important and I was mentally and physically exhausted.

I was pushing away the one person who understood me, and because we were in business together I knew he was suffering too. But it felt easier to blame him than to admit I needed help.

Once I realized something had to change I started searching for answers outside of myself. This led to a lot of confusion, especially since I was seeking answers from others, like my husband, expecting him to “fix” everything.

Instead of looking outside of myself for answers I started turning inwards. It was hard to look INSIDE and acknowledge that I needed the help, but once I asked I felt the weight of it all lift. Not only did my perimenopausal symptoms start to improve, but my relationship with my husband started to improve as well.

I believe there is a lot of power in asking for what you need. It can be scary, but I bet you know deep down when you need to ask for it.

I know firsthand it is hard AF making that first move, to ask for help, to ask for what you NEED, but I know once you do the journey to empowerment begins.